Talking as a couple
7 questions to ask your partner about intimacy
Talking about intimacy is not always easy, but it is one of the loveliest ways to grow closer. Choose a calm moment, phones away, and use these questions as an invitation, not an interrogation.
The 7 questions
- What makes you feel closest to me?
- At what times of day do you most feel like being close?
- Is there something new you would like to try together, at our own pace?
- What do I do that makes you feel desired?
- Is there anything you would prefer we did differently?
- How do you feel about our current routine?
- What would you never want us to stop doing?
How to lead the conversation
Listen all the way through before answering. There are no right or wrong answers: the goal is to know each other better. If a question feels uncomfortable, it can wait for another day.
Intimacy begins with conversation.
Repeat this exercise from time to time: what we feel changes, and asking is the best way to keep up with that change.